Devastated after 15 years
I (M-41) just found out last Friday that my wife was having an affair with her co worker for a year. I confronted her and she blamed me for being distant etc.
I am devastated and broken as I worry about our little son . Since then I haven’t been able to sleep, eat, or do anything. I kept blaming myself and asking what could I have done better.
So we decided to go to marriage counseling to see how we can co parent while divorced. However the therapist started by saying infidelity is always two people’s fault. She kept telling me it’s my fault for not being there for her. This just made me go into this spiral of how I could have saved my marriage. The counselor pretty much took my wife’s side and asked her things like "so you did this because you wanted to feel loved and appreciated " . This just broke me more . I don’t know how I can’t get out of this to be present for my son and get back to my job
18 comments posted: Wednesday, July 23rd, 2025
